Thursday, May 18, 2006

Seein Red..

So after a few days of recuperating(hence the delay of a new post) and trying to get back to study mode, I am ready to rant and rave about an issue..

MARRIAGE...

You see in my family we are currently having a family wide sale..my cousins are on sale..up too 70% off..Final sale of coures, so no returns or exchanges..unfortunaltly we do not provide fitting rooms for fittings..Therefore pick one and try your luck..You always have up to 4 store credits..

Yea..My BABY cousin..Got engaged..Milchat..Got hitched..Was seen half dressed infront of a complete and utter stranger..She is now going out with this guy..

This is not the only problem..I was recruited into decorating the house for her party..People..I dont beleive in the institution..You want me to advertise it with my designs??What the Fuc*?
But I had no say in the matter..I was carted from one store to another, form one mall to another and was abused in the most unhumane way possible..I had to decorate and give opinons about hair, make up, dress..UGh...

I got to deal with the caters..Fun Fun Fun Fun Fun..Miskeen the cake and baklava people..I gave them a good piece of my mind..It was one of those "days" where the sky was a dark shade of black and the air smelled of skunk and the air was thick and suffocating..So Im probably never ever going to be setting foot in that establishment in the future..

The party went off with only a few hitches..You know, pizza got cold or drinks needed more ice..But over all it was an awsome success..Even the bratty kids were well behaved..The decorations kicked ass..The music was awsome the bride was absoultely drop dead gorgous..

The only major problem with my cousins and thier martial bliss..IS that it puts pressure on me...
PEOPLE
I
AM
NOT
MARRIAGE
MATERIAL....
The ladies that graced us with thier pressence made it perfectly clear that i should be married..Sooon..So not only am to wed but I am to be wed with a deadline..What the hell?!?!?My self imposed expiration date is my 25 birthday..Obviously that isnt good enough..My god..Just cause my family memebers like having another half doesnt mean I do..Get the message people..Get on with the fucking program..My god..
"Mashalla your next!"
"That just leaves you cutie"
"Miskeena Mimi bas hia left..Dont worry baby you'll get married soon",
"Do you have any one in mind",
"why dont you come to this wedding this week, Im sure someone is looking for a bride "
UUUUUUUUUUUUUUGGGHHHH
Ya saber ayoob....

22 Comments:

Blogger Baroque said...

i know what you mean! one of my relatives is engaged and now all eyes are on me..

hate that!

10:22 AM  
Blogger jiji said...

same here lily!! both on moms side and das side.. am considered next in line for marriage! like evrywhere i go i hear fading sounds "thats jiji bint flan...? ooh mino hathy? is that bent flana? when will she gaduate? makh6oba? ma7joza?"

wut do they want from me!

(funny thing u should post this right after mom told me abt some guy`s mummy who just called her askin abt me?! na3am! ishtaboon!

10:27 AM  
Blogger ZiZoTiMe said...

LooooooooooL !! 7altech 7alah :)

eeee el 7anah matkhale9 o el ahal bs yabon ezawjon e3yalhom 3ala enhom ybon yestanson bs ohma ma yadron ena ako shy esma raghba bel bedaya ... Not gholoh fa khothoh :P madry 7ata etha I said it right or wrong bs I think u got the idea ;p

Bs enty tawech e9gheera! etha eshtaghlaw 3alaich men al7en then allah e3enech... Try to have someone in your mind from now cause shaklech mara7 tafleten menhom o men el 7anah ;)

12:31 PM  
Anonymous B.E.S aka imano said...

Oh you poor thing... you had to think like a girl for 3 days?!? shopping. hair, makeup? Allah ya3eenich.

oh and alyom elich INSHALLAH!

1:52 PM  
Blogger Tinkerbell said...

i know EXACTLY how u feel hon ;) my sis recently got married and oh my god if i hear any more "el fal lech inshala" i will dieeee..ppl for some reason think life revolves around finding a husband..hang in there ;)

5:25 PM  
Blogger Hazolat said...

It's absolutely refreshing to hear a Kuwaiti girl not basing her life and letting it revolve around marriage and a husband. Your life and your achievements count and are valuable, married or not.

But society marks importance on marriage and children, mentalities will change when more people like you come along.

(Wil Faal Lich Inshallah :-P)

3:57 AM  
Blogger Sedna said...

Haha that's your typical Kuwaiti-family-pre/post-wedding scene.

Good luck babe :) Don't let them get to you

1:03 PM  
Blogger Wilted_Roze said...

WElcome to the CLUBBBBB

ur in Canada and there doing/saying ALL this Trie leaving in Kuwait.


I say everything Is Faith and ALlah gives on Ur neeyah and when ur heart is ready ur ready :P

best wishes

gald ur cousin had a blast

2:34 PM  
Blogger LiLaCs said...

Baroque--Babe you have the sympathies...Sucks ass huh?

Jiji--They want you served on a platter, preferably half dressed lol:P.. Darlin they find you irresistable..;)Play it coy..Thats what I do..When ever anyone asks I tell them to wait in line or that they cant afford me ;)

7:47 PM  
Blogger LiLaCs said...

Zizoooo--I gave my father a detailed description of the guy..I even told him what his parents should be like..My parents aren't the problem here..They understand..Its the people that live around..**sighs** Stop writing in transarabic..It took me an hour to understand your comment and I still dont think I got everything:P

Imano--Yes three days of being a girl..I was about to break down and cry..Ilfal lich inshlla..;)


Tinkerbell--thankx babe..Welcome to my bloggie!! Im hanging Ima hanging..but my arm muscles are starting to hurt ;)

8:43 PM  
Blogger LiLaCs said...

hazolat--and here I thought we were friends :P..Lol Refreshing eh? I like that word..Reminds me of the perfume Anias Anias..true life shouldnt revolve around childern and a husband..Sure I want them and sure they are imp..But not now..Now Im having waaaay too much fun being who I am ;)


Sedna--ty hun..Im trying Im trying..But they are really laying it on thick..Mabye I should go back toi kuwait till everything cools down..:P

Wilted-rosy--Ugh..My cousin had a blast..Everyone had a blast..I even had a blast lol..Actually I had no pressure to get married in kuwait..My family is either in canada or iraq so I wasnt pulled into the wedding wrap..And people were pretty good about it when I came back here..But now with both my younger cousins getting married..I am the only survivor of marriageable age..:PBut Im going to give them a run for their money ;)

8:49 PM  
Blogger Faith said...

loool...YOUM LICH YA 3AYOUNIIIE :D


i love weddings..because I like dressing up :D but i do hate the market business..ughhh..it's so endless, the best part is when you arent married and they start their stories of how you "have someone" and all that crap...

anyyyways..no one is good enough for my lillie

11:00 PM  
Blogger LiLaCs said...

faithoooo---darling you know it ;)Im telling these guys they cant afford me..Im a pink diamond ;) I tell them Im too in love with myself to even consider anyone else..Besides..I keep tellng them that we have somethin...They dont listen..

11:46 PM  
Blogger Princess said...

uhh marriage sucks in general and being questioned and hounded abt it only makes it suckier!! wat is their problems!! im not marriage material either hun and i freak out at the mention of it soo yeah try to ignore them (gives advice she cant do herself)

2:47 PM  
Blogger No3iK said...

wow i loved ur topic
same here same problem here !!

girl has a lable with ex.date!! its rediculos

shes not married shes is like
the biggest " MASKEENA"
!!!! whats wrong with these people they just dont get it, they only want to have babies and thats it!
when do they really get to live.

marridge is optional in life when ever u felt like it + the guy u know u want and is right for you then so be it :) may it be a blessed marridge .

u get married because u want to, ur ready, and u have the person u want to live with. same case after u get married. u have babies because u want to, because ur ready, because u BOTH want to :)
see these are all options inlife not musts ...

if not , u live on just as happy just as suuccesfull more important, just as normal as everyone else :)

sorry 6awalt bs l2ani 7ail mi7tara lol min zuman u helped me unbottle my feelings :* thnx dear and good luck.

7:35 PM  
Blogger LiLaCs said...

Your majesty sparkling princess--you humble me ;) Im keeping them a short leash hun;)I think if they lay off for a bit I might acutally think about commitment ;)..I did say might..lol

No3ik--Welcome welcome to my abode..PLease some Mocha?Lemonade?
I dont like the fact either that we are resembling milk cartons.."Please see reverse for good before date" :)
I totally agree..You get married and make brats when you decide you are physically and mentally stable enough..I hate it when people judge you on the basis of you being married or not..People yes Im smart, yes Im good looking and Yes im single and no Im not a slut..Sheesh..Im going to type it up and stick it onto my forehead..:P
I loooooooooove looong comments..Looove em..Feel free to rant and unbottle your feelings here!!

12:00 AM  
Blogger No3iK said...

Ur such a sweet heart ;*

thanks, for the cute welcome :)

i also need to add one more thing.
people really dont care if ur happily married or not. Being stuck in a miserable marriage is better than being a happy single girl. they just want to get u off their backs !!! ur like a burden.

They dont realize that they are the ones who are becoming a burden!!!

people who love u should be happy for u, knowing that ur simply happy and satisfied with ur choices in life. not tell u what to do, and how to live
when I say "people" and "they" I dont no necessarily mean ur parents, its society and ur family.

my parents, are gr8 and they support me all the time, problem is with my cousins who are getting married in the age of 17 having babies in 18 !!!! what do they know? believe me they dont know alot of things. all they know now is that they are MARRIED.

thats it i guess :)
have a good day now.

7:55 AM  
Anonymous Tantalize said...

And that's why some ladies deliberately get married in order to quickly get divorced. Then the fun and supposed freedom begins.

1:35 PM  
Blogger Bare Feet said...

like seriously... Can they stop these traditions of BLIND-MARRIAGE SET UPS.. we are human, not girls for sale, not something our parents rised us up to be someones (excuse my language) f**k mate fantacy.. cuz when u look at it thats all it is.. THE MAN IS IN YOU BEFORE HE IS REALLY GOTTEN TO KNOW YOU.. how do people do that?? i dont get it.. and then these women turn around and feel sorry for you because you have passed the age of 20 without being f**ked by a stranger that you are suppose to spend the rest of your life with.. JUST LET US FIND HIM ON OUR OWN.. stop setting us up on these blind-marriages.. and honestly its no different than the white girl that sleeps with a guy that she hardly knows after a party and gets pregnant with him. Because our people are just justifying it with a lil contract and some religious sentences to make it ok.

3:39 PM  
Blogger LiLaCs said...

tantalize--lol..The dark recess of a female mind..A man who knows our secerts;)Ya walad ya kha6eer..:P

Bare feet--**jumps up cheering with pink and blue pom poms**I totally agree..People I dont want my first sexual experiance to be with a guy who I got to know for two months..EXCUSE ME for wanting to be in an emotional or intellectual level with someone before sleeping with them..Darling Im soo glad you understand...We are not up for sale and we DO NOT HAVE A FUCKING DUE DATE..Im not married because I DONT WANT TOO..

8:44 PM  
Blogger A Daydreamer said...

omg!!! i can soooooooooooooooooooo relate!!!!

im 26 now and EVERYONE is buggin' me!!! im like... WTF people!?!?! esp. my aunts and girl cousins (the married ones of course!) and now im getting the whole "akeed, she has someone in her mind!".. blah blah ppl! whether i do or not, its none of your buzinssss!!

12:54 PM  
Blogger LiLaCs said...

no3aik--Not really a burden..But more like they would rather see you married and miserable because they cannot fathom the fact that you are single and happy..

My parents are awsome..Or should I saw my mom is awsome..She wants me married when I finish my PhD ;)But its good that your parents are understanding..All parents in general feel that thier kids should be given choice..Its just the enviorment we are surrounded in and how it veiws those choices..


DayDreamer--darlin darlin so do you;)Have someone in mind that is..??hmm?hmm?

2:28 PM  

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